THE CANDY CANE

Tis the season and the only time of the year when Candy Canes are a staple item in every home.  In fact they now come in every flavor imaginable.  Recently three of our GK’s (grandkids) spent the night.  It did not take them long to discover Papa had filled the Candy Cane house with several flavors of candy canes.  They had helped themselves to several of these delicious treats throughout their stay.  When it came time to deliver the GK’s to their rightful owners we told them they could take a candy cane home but they could not eat it until they were home.  About halfway into the trip home our granddaughter says; “Nana can you take the wrapper off my candy cane”?  My reply was; “no, we said you could not eat it until you get home”.  “But Nana, Tyler is eating his candy cane”!  Tyler says; “no I’m not, I am licking it”.  Now how could I possibly get mad when admiring the wit of my grandson?

I was reflecting on this scene when an analogy began to transpire in my mind.  Are we just like little kids trying to find a way to justify what we want to do even if we know it is wrong (sin)?  So easily we are deceived into thinking wrong choices or decisions are okay.  Just a little won’t hurt (licking the candy cane is not eating it). What is so wrong about taking a little taste? 

We learn in Genesis 4:6-7(NKJV); So the Lord said to Cain, “Why are you angry? And why has your countenance fallen?  If you do well, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin lies at the door. And its desire is for you, but you should rule over it.”

Eventually sin will have its ugly way with us;

Ephesians 4:17-31(NLT)
With the Lord’s authority I say this: Live no longer as the Gentiles do, for they are hopelessly confused.  Their minds are full of darkness; they wander far from the life God gives because they have closed their minds and hardened their hearts against him.  They have no sense of shame. They live for lustful pleasure and eagerly practice every kind of impurity. But that isn’t what you learned about Christ.  Since you have heard about Jesus and have learned the truth that comes from him, throw off your old sinful nature and your former way of life, which is corrupted by lust and deception.  Instead, let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes.  Put on your new nature, created to be like God—truly righteous and holy.  So stop telling lies. Let us tell our neighbors the truth, for we are all parts of the same body.  And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil.  If you are a thief, quit stealing. Instead, use your hands for good hard work, and then give generously to others in need.  Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.  And do not bring sorrow to God’s Holy Spirit by the way you live. Remember, he has identified you as his own, guaranteeing that you will be saved on the day of redemption.  Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. 

The Bible warns us about sin and what will transpire if we choose to walk down that road instead of staying on the straight narrow pathway; Matthew 7:13-14(NLT) “You can enter God’s Kingdom only through the narrow gate. The highway to hell is broad, and its gate is wide for the many who choose that way.  But the gateway to life is very narrow and the road is difficult, and only a few ever find it.

The Word of God will show us the way, if we will only read it and put into practice what we have read.  Psalms 119:105(NKJV) Your word is a lamp to my feet And a light to my path.

Another year is coming to a close and the dawning of a new year will soon begin.  I challenge all of us to reflect back on 2012.  Where have we fallen short in our Christian walk?  What did we overcome?  Did we fall into to compromise and “lick the candy”?  Where did we shine and release; 2 Corinthians 2:15(NLT) Our lives are a Christ-like fragrance rising up to God. But this fragrance is perceived differently by those who are being saved and by those who are perishing. 

Candy Cane History and Legends:

Legend has it that in 1670, the choirmaster at the Cologne Cathedral in Germany handed out sugar sticks among his young singers to keep them quiet during the long Living Creche ceremony. In honor of the occasion, he had the candies bent into shepherds' crooks.

In 1847, a German-Swedish immigrant named August Imgard of Wooster, Ohio, decorated a small blue spruce with paper ornaments and candy canes. It wasn't until the turn of the century that the red and white stripes and peppermint flavors became the norm.

In Indiana, a candy maker wanted to make a candy that could be a reminder of Jesus Christ, so he made the Christmas candy cane. He started off with a stick of pure white hard candy. The white color symbolized the virgin birth and the sinless nature of Jesus, and the hard candy symbolized the solid rock which was the foundation of the church, and firmness of the promises of God. The candy maker made the candy in the form of a J, which represented the name of Jesus and the staff of the Good Shepherds. He then stained it with three stripes which showed the scourging Jesus received, and symbolized the blood shed by Christ on the cross. When you break the cane, it reminds us that Jesus' body was broken for us.[i]

I have not been able to blog this last quarter of the year.  It has been a whirlwind...hopefully the New Year will bring new energy and I will be able to share our story of:  BLIND FAITH

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[i] http://www.spanglercandy.com/our-brands/candy-canes/legends

PEAK COLORS

PEAK COLORS
The northern states are experiencing what we call “peak colors”.  One of the privileges of living north is the fall brings with it crisp air and a landscape of breathtaking color.  I began to ponder this changing of season and how symbolic it can be when relating it to life.  The following paragraphs briefly describe what takes place as leaves change colors:

The way plants turn water and carbon dioxide into oxygen and sugar is called photosynthesis. That means "putting together with light." A chemical called chlorophyll helps make photosynthesis happen. Chlorophyll is what gives plants their green color.

As summer ends and autumn comes, the days get shorter and shorter. This is how the trees "know" to begin getting ready for winter.

During winter, there is not enough light or water for photosynthesis. The trees will rest, and live off the food they stored during the summer. They begin to shut down their food-making factories. The green chlorophyll disappears from the leaves. As the bright green fades away, we begin to see yellow and orange colors. Small amounts of these colors have been in the leaves all along. We just can't see them in the summer, because they are covered up by the green chlorophyll.

The bright reds and purples we see in leaves are made mostly in the fall. In some trees, like maples, glucose is trapped in the leaves after photosynthesis stops. Sunlight and the cool nights of autumn cause the leaves turn this glucose into a red color. The brown color of trees like oaks is made from wastes left in the leaves.[i]

The color green is commonly considered the “color” symbolic of life.  The “putting together with light” produces the life giving color of green.  The Christian believer is full of life when the light of Christ Jesus permeates their life.  If we take a look at Ezekiel 47:1-12 we will find there is a time coming…verse 12; Along the bank of the river, on this side and that, will grow all kinds of trees used for food; their leaves will not wither, and their fruit will not fail. They will bear fruit every month, because their water flows from the sanctuary. Their fruit will be for food, and their leaves for medicine.” 

 The leaves on the trees will stay green; full of life. In the physical as the “light” is removed the leaves begin to turn colors for a very short time until they have withered and fallen to the ground and death has occurred.  If you apply this to the spiritual aspect of our life when the light of Christ Jesus is dimmed our life begins to experience “death”.  We may think, be distracted or deceived because we see “an array of color” (sin never appears as it is), but in spiritual reality what is occurring is death.  Believers, we are to stay “green”, full of the light of Christ Jesus.

Matthew 6:22-23(NKJV)
“The lamp of the body is the eye. If therefore your eye is good, your whole body will be full of light.  But if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If therefore the light that is in you is darkness, how great is that darkness!

John 8:12(NKJV)
Then Jesus spoke to them again, saying, “I am the light of the world. He who follows Me shall not walk in darkness, but have the light of life.”

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[i] http://www.sciencemadesimple.com/leaves.html

Money and Relationships

Unfortunately, many couples enter into marriage with a piggy bank mentality; it will all work out, and they do not form a structure for their finances. The piggy bank is their only form of saving. Even marriages with twenty years under their belt squeak by through life with the piggy bank mentality, living paycheck to paycheck, and have little hope for change.

It would be best to approach the subject of finance when both spouses have a fresh mind.  For example early in the day after they have showered had breakfast and have prepared  for the day.  Try to pick a time when other stress issues are not occurring if possible.  Although financial issues generally add stress to just about every aspect of marriage.  The couples must conduct themselves in a calm manner and if this is not possible they should seek a mediator.  Normally couples will exhibit a bit more of self control if another party is there but not always.  There are times when couples are looking for allies, someone to side with them.

Knowledge of each other’s temperaments can also be of great value.  A simple profile can be taken such as the Arno Profile System that will bring clarity to the temperament of each spouse.  This can bring revelation as to why an individual has the spending habits they do.  One may be a spender and the other a saver or they may both be spenders and this gives way for a more difficult resolution when it comes to finance but at least you are aware of it.

Endeavoring to resolve issues can be like the clashing of two cymbals together that are out of sync with the music. When cymbals are brought together at the appropriate time during a concert, they add a beautiful climax to the symphony being played; however, clash them at the wrong moment, and it can destroy the symphony. We have heard it said “it’s all in the timing,” and this is true when it comes to resolving conflict.

Many facets come into play when resolving conflict. Mastering two of the greatest principles of our faith will enable us not only to resolve conflict but also allow us to live in harmony. Repentance and forgiveness are paramount in our life if we want to be able to resolve conflict and establish good communication skills. Without repentance and forgiveness, there will be no lasting resolution to issues couples may face.

Before coming together we suggest each individual spend time seeking the Lord allowing the Holy Spirit to reveal and examine the intents of their heart in regards to money.  I assure you if you sincerely ask the Lord to give you revelation in this area He will.

“Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death” (2 Corinthians 7:10, NIV). As an individual or couple, coming clean or repenting of any un-confessed sin will help set the stage for lasting resolution to conflicts and create harmony in living.

Forgiveness is the next attribute we must examine thoroughly in our individual lives as well as our couple lives to be able to establish healthy conflict resolution, which has lasting effects. “To forgive is to set the prisoner free, then discover the prisoner was you” (Author unknown). A careful study of Matthew 18 will bring a greater awareness of the importance our Lord places on forgiveness. Please bear in mind this parable is about unforgiveness. The scriptures written prior to and after the parable deal directly with unforgiveness and its implications.

Once each individual has sought the Lord and come clean before Him they will be better equipped to work together as one for a permanent resolution to finance.  Hidden or unconfessed sin and unforgiveness can block us from the blessings of the Lord even if we are committed tithers. 

Each person must be willing to take responsibility for their own failure in regards to finance and come to an agreeable plan that will set in motion success.

·         List all debt

·         List all monthly expense

·         List all monthly income

Take a step of faith and commit to the tithe (the whole 10%).  Tithing is covenant; a covenant is a permanent arrangement of a promise by God and an obligation of terms to be fulfilled by His people. His people fulfill their part willingly and benefit greatly by God’s promise, which is always for their good. Throughout Scripture, these covenants have been declared by God. The word covenant occurs two hundred and eighty times in the Bible. The blessing for obedience and the curse for disobedience has been established by God if we obey or disobey. In Scripture, God has declared He is bound by His Word: “My covenant I will not break, nor alter the word that has gone out of My lips” (Psalm 89:34, NKJV). The CEV says, “I won’t break my agreement or go back on my word.” In Isaiah 40:8 (NKJV) we are reminded, “The grass withers, the flower fades, but the word of our God stands forever.” When it comes to finance and marriage, you have heard it before, but we must state it again. There is a covenant that God has mandated; when we as couples fulfill our part, we are guaranteed God will honor His Word to us. The principle of the tithe cannot be understated. If you want the financial aspect of your marriage to go well, you must adhere to the tithe. As a believer, the best financial plan set in place without the tithe will not allow God’s best to be fulfilled in your marriage and family.

Study the following scripture in reference to the tithe:

For I the Lord do not change; therefore you, O children of Jacob, are not consumed. From the days of your fathers you have turned aside from my statutes and have not kept them. Return to me, and I will return to you, says the Lord of hosts. But you say, “How shall we return?” Will man rob God? Yet you are robbing me. But you say, “How have we robbed you?” In your tithes and contributions. You are cursed with a curse, for you are robbing me, the whole nation of you. Bring the full tithes into the storehouse, that there may be food in my house. And thereby put me to the test, says the Lord of hosts, if I will not open the windows of heaven for you and pour down for you a blessing until there is no more need. I will rebuke the devourer for you, so that it will not destroy the fruits of your soil, and your vine in the field shall not fail to bear, says the Lord of hosts. Then all nations will call you blessed, for you will be a land of delight, says the Lord of hosts.

Malachi 3:6-12 (ESV)

Both spouses must be willing to compromise and give up something in order to bring balance to this area of finance.  There can be no hidden secrets; you both must be an open book.  Choose a spending limit that both of you agree to that you will abide by.  For example if you are going to spend more than $35.00 on something that is not already in the budget you will call your spouse  and seek agreement on the expenditure.  Normally sleeping on something for 48 hours will curve any unnecessary spending because the urge will have dissipated by then. 

Drastic measures may need to be taken such as not carrying credit cards or debit cards in your purse or billfold and only carrying cash.  Once your cash is depleted you will soon realize the need for self control.  It amazes Dan and I where couples place their priorities.

A good rule of thumb:  Tithe 10%, save 10% and live on 80%

THE VALUE OF A MARRIAGE MENTOR

Marriage mentoring can be a tremendous benefit to any young couple or a couple who is struggling. A potential life-long friendship can develop between the couples or their relationship may last for a season of the mentorees’ marriage that enables them to set in place foundational principles and skills for a radiant marriage. A trust or bond is formed between these couples creating an atmosphere where the mentorees feel comfortable to ask questions and advice and the mentors are free to share their life experiences in marriage where there is no fear of judging one another or fearing confidentiality will be broken. Even if the mentoring relationship lasts for just a season of the married couple’s life, an impact or impression will take place that will have lifelong effects.

Traditional counseling is short-term and in a professional setting a client based relationship only is formed and there may not be enough time for the counselees to feel comfortable enough to open up and share what is truly in their hearts.  Typically speaking in traditional counseling you may not have a married couple as the counselors and the counselees may have trouble relating to just a male or female counselor.  When both male and female (team counselors and team mentors) are part of this relationship each person feels comfortable and understood. Another issue that can arise in traditional counseling is the couple is just going through the motions of pre-marriage counseling because it is required before they can get married.  The pre-marriage counseling becomes one of the “to-do’s” as they are planning their wedding.  We are truly advocates of pre-marriage counseling; if the engaged couple takes this counseling seriously the counseling will lay a solid foundation in their life to build a marriage upon.  Pre-marriage counseling is a fabulous tool, but it is the beginning process in a life-long commitment of learning together as you love and support one another in your marital union (think of it as one piece in your life puzzle).  The ideal scenario is to pair pre-marriage counseling with marriage mentoring but this is not always possible or available for all engaged couples.  Throughout the Bible mentoring or discipleship is displayed.  A few examples would be Moses and Joshua (Deuteronomy 1:38, 34:9), Elijah and Elisha (1 Kings 19:16) and Elizabeth and Mary (Luke 1:39-40).

Many times in marriage no matter how many years a couple has been married they may be at somewhat of an impasse, they may just want to fine-tune their marriage, or they may be seeking to prepare for marriage. If this couple is hesitant to seek professional counseling or finance is a huge issue for seeking marriage counseling finding an older couple who has a solid Christian marriage will give the couple the necessary tools to overcome their issues, bring freshness to a stale marriage and or prepare them for marriage.  The older couple has weathered a many storms thereby becoming a source of encouragement and comfort to the couple in need of help and a marital role model.  It is wonderful to know someone who has been through rough waters and emerged in a good place where their marriage is one that flourishes.  The older mentor couple will also be able to see your marital picture clearer without being one-sided as a parent or friend might be (they will remain neutral).  Marriage mentors are a fantastic resource with a wealth of experience and knowledge for couples to tap into.  Most couples are unwilling to ask parents or close relatives for advice.  If they were to ask and this was an area of conflict, sides will be taken.  Many young couples today do not even live in the same state that they grew up in making it very difficult to draw support from family members or friends.

When seeking a marriage mentor be sure to take into consideration:  

·         A Christian couple of similar faith who is strong in their faith and an advocate of marriage according to Biblical principles.

·         Do they have a solid marriage (no major martial conflicts), remember no marriage is perfect; all of us no matter how old we are will be working on improving our life and marriage.

·         It is a good idea if this couple is at least 15 years older because they will have passed through life experiences that you are now embarking upon.

·         Do they possess similar likes and interests as you?  You may find it hard to relate to another couple if they do not share common interests.

·         Do they have the time to share their life with you?  However you must be considerate of their time and respect they have a life also and cannot be on call 24 hours a day.

·         How far away do they live?  If they are more than 45 minutes away it may become a hindrance to meet together.

·         Will they be able to speak the truth in love with you and advise you if professional counseling is needed? What resources or connections do they have?

·         Can you trust them to remain confidential in what you share with them about your life and marriage?

The marriage mentor is not a professional counselor and should not be expected to give professional counsel; they are simple sharing life experience as an older wiser couple who has successfully navigated their martial journey this far.  The marriage mentor will need to recognize any serious issues the mentoree couple may have and encourage them to seek professional counsel.  

If the mentoree couple exhibits any of the following the mentor couple should encourage this couple to seek professional help:

·         They are at an impasse and cannot resolve any conflict that arises.

·         The couple will argue anywhere, insulting each other regardless of who they are in front of.

·         Is he or she unusually withdrawn or silent for long periods and withdrawn from other family members or friends?

·         Did he or she make an impulsive decision to suddenly quit a job, school, or hobby?

·         Did he or she show a sudden interest in a sport or hobby that takes them away from home several times a week or for long periods of time?

·         Has she or he become anorexic or bulimic?

·         Is he or she practicing any form of self-mutilation in the form of cuts or burns?

·         Has he or she developed any unusual fears?

·         Has he or she become depressed for a long period of time?

·         Have you noticed anger issues?

·         Do you suspect domestic violence is transpiring?

·         Have you become aware of any mental instability?

·         Has he or she shown any suicidal tendencies?

·         Is there any type of addictions such as alcohol, drugs, gambling or pornography?  Some evidence states that pornography is now the 5^th leading cause of divorce.

As marriage counselors we highly recommend young couples find an older seasoned couple who is rooted in God and be mentored by them.  We are advocates of marriage mentoring and developed and implemented a marriage mentor program in our church.  The young couples who participated in this program absolutely love it and have benefited greatly from their marriage mentors.  The mentors also have really enjoyed sharing their lives with these young couples and it has given them tremendous pleasure knowing that they have helped equip a younger couple to have a marriage that will last a lifetime.  After all the Bible does say; …it is more blessed to give than to receive. Acts 20:35

Lack of Sexual Interest in Marriage

Please note this article is rated PG18

In our counseling ministry it is a rare thing to find a couple whose sexual relationship is fulfilling and thriving.  In fact it does not seem to matter how old these couples are or how long they have been married. Newlyweds to senior citizens may have trouble in this area.   You may think this is solely an issue involving the wife in the marital relationship, however; that is not true.  In fact just as many women express their concern over their husband’s lack of interest in sex as do the men in their wives.

Various factors contribute to this escalating issue in regards to a fulfilling sexual union in marriage.  In some individuals these issues could have taken root as early as childhood depending upon the environment they grew up in.  They may take these unresolved hurts, issues, or misinformation into their marriage and add them to the other insufficiencies leading to a recipe for bedroom boredom or disaster. 

Prior to marriage when couples are dating they are pursuing the other in efforts to win their affection, approval and ultimately a love that will take them to the altar of matrimony.  They step out of their comfort zone into whatever personality that is needed to win the prize, “marriage”.  Many times after the wedding they quickly slip back into their God given temperament and all that effort soon dissipates into the day in day out normalcy of life.  They stop pursuing one another and this is very common problem. Time passes by and issues begin to surface that will cause the sexual relationship to deteriorate. 

Some of the deeper issues may be:

• How sex was viewed in the home they grew up in?  Was it viewed in a healthy way, as the Bible has portrayed it?
• Guilt from prior relationships they were involved in.
• Having sex before marriage.
• Living together prior to marriage.
• Pornography
• Having been sexually or physically abused.

If any of those issues in your life have not been resolved or healed we suggested you seek professional counseling.

• Some general issues may be:The couple stopped flirting with each other and dating has become non-existent.  Flirt with each other on a daily basis and make sure “date night” money is in the budget. Fostering a daily atmosphere of romance sets the standard for a great sex life.  We like to implement “Magical Marriage Moments”.  The definition of a Magical Marriage Moment is: taking an everyday circumstance and turning it into a magical memory of that moment!   Here is an example:   You are watching TV with your spouse. A commercial comes on with a barely dressed man or woman. Turn the TV off and look intently at your spouse. With complete sincerity say; “I only have eyes for you. You are the most incredibly beautiful/handsome woman/man I have ever laid eyes on; you still take my breath away.”
• When couples do not set up healthy boundary lines around their marital relationship and around relationships outside of marriage this enables “mistrust” issues to occur.  Safeguarding your relationship and keeping it pure in thought, word and deed should be a priority in your marriage.  Each of you should come up with ways to protect yourself and your spouse that is agreeable.  Be accountable to one another.
• Stress in the work setting, over committing oneself volunteering and the effects society has on marriage in regards to sexual purity all take a toll on couples and how they view and participate in the marital sexual relationship.  Addressing these issues, then defining and aligning themselves with the Biblical prospective of the marital union will help restore and edify this area in marriage.
• The couple has not cultivated intimacy in their marriage.  Sex without intimacy will die and become a meaningless act.  Developing sexual intimacy not only leads to a great sex life, it also adds great stability in remaining pure for the married couple. I cannot think of a greater way of developing intimacy than that of studying your spouse. Know what makes them tick; their likes, dislikes, hopes, fears, as well as dreams. Becoming an A+ student of your spouse will yield incredible dividends for years to come. This is one subject that does not end after a semester; it is a lifelong learning technique. Each of us as individuals is very unique and ever changing. We hear couples say all the time, “My spouse changed. They’re not like they were when we first married.” Yes, we are in a constant state of transformation and hopefully for the better. If we are seeking the Lord and striving for maturity as a believer, the Bible assures us, “But we all, with unveiled face, beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory, just as by the Spirit of the Lord” (2 Corinthians 3:18, NKJV).

• Not taking the time to learn your spouse; when it comes to love making.  Both of you must feel free to express yourself; without the fear of rejection or offending the other person.  Learn to speak the truth in love and put your spouse’s desires above your own.  They say knowledge is freedom and this is true when it comes to the sexual relationship.  Knowledge of the physical act of sexual intercourse is essential for a satisfying sexual relationship. Couples will assume this comes naturally; that is a fallacy. Making love is an art to be learned, and learning this art is a lifetime commitment. As we grow older our bodies change, and we must be willing to continue to learn and change as our bodies do.

Establishing trust and good communication skills in marriage will set a foundational stone in place where learning the art of love making will flourish more with each passing year.  However couples may feel insecure discussing their sex life with each other and do not know where to begin or how to approach this.  Remember obtaining knowledge about the act of sex and how our bodies are designed by God will help equip us in this area.  Purchasing a Christian book written on the subject or speaking with an older couple who has a great sex life will be beneficial.  A good time to discuss your sexual relationship may be while you are on a long walk and not when you are in the bedroom.  This will take the pressure off both of you and will not hinder you from expressing yourself.  Build each other up and determine together this is an adventure worth investing your time and energy into; make it a priority.  Support each other in your weaknesses as well in in your strengths.

SMALL BUT MIGHTY

 What’s in a name?  Yesterday we brought home the newest additional to our family.  A 2# Yorkie.  We have been planning this for the last 12 weeks and during this time we have named and renamed this dog trying to figure out what exactly we wanted to call him once we brought him home.  We live on a lake so we wanted something nautical.  Among the names which we recycled over the last 12 weeks were; Sailor, Surfer, Woody, Popeye, Gilligan, Skipper and finally the winner was TEAK.  We knew he would be extremely small but we wanted a strong name to make up for his size.  Teak is: a costly tropical hardwood used to build ships, yachts and outdoor furniture.  Teak is very durable and weather resistant.  It is also bug resistant.  In fact the deck on our boat is made out of teak wood.

I absolutely love the story of Gideon (Judges 6 - 8).  In chapter 6 verse 12 the Angel of the Lord calls a “mighty man of valor”.  Gideon’s response was; “my clan is the weakest and I am the least in my father’s house”.  Gideon's name  means:  "great warrior".The story goes on and the Lord reassures Gideon that He will surely enable him to accomplish the task of saving Israel.  The Lord let’s Gideon know that the army is too big and continues to reduced the size. 

When God is in the circumstance no matter how we see ourselves, little becomes much in the hands of the Lord!  We become Mighty Men/Women of Valor!

Micah 5:2(NKJV)
    “But you, Bethlehem Ephrathah,      Though you are little among the thousands of Judah,     Yet out of you shall come forth to Me     The One to be Ruler in Israel,     Whose goings forth are from of old,     From everlasting.”

Luke 16:10(NKJV)
He who is faithful in what is least is faithful also in much; and he who is unjust in what is least is unjust also in much. 


1 Corinthians 1:27(NKJV)
But God has chosen the foolish things of the world to put to shame the wise, and God has chosen the weak things of the world to put to shame the things which are mighty; 


According to animal-world.com the Yorkie is:

Originally bred to kill rats, the Yorkshire Terrier has a fearless disposition!  The Yorkshire Terrier is a tenacious, spunky toy dog breed. They are brave, energetic, and affectionate. They are renowned for acting like a very big dog but in a very small body. Such a dynamic little dog, this is one small dog breed that commands both affection and respect. They often are wary of strangers and can be aggressive with unfamiliar animals. They are often protective of their masters and their family. All of these traits make them good companions within the family, and also great watchdogs.

David - a man after My own heart

David - a man after My own heart

IMPRINTS #4

If you wanted a kitten and had to choose between Pebbles (the calico) or Bamm Bamm (the yellow tiger); which one would you choose?  Which kitten looks to be the most loveable, friendly and over all nice kitty?

So often we choose by “looks” what the outside package has to offer.  We base a first impression by what we see and many times bypass a diamond in the ruff.

When the prophet Samuel was sent by God to choose a King from among the sons of Jesse the Lord told Samuel; God sees not as man sees, for man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.  The Lord did not want Samuel to just look at the outside appearance.  The next King would truly need to be a man after God’s own heart.  Saul had been the people’s choice a man of physical stature and he failed miserably (1 Samuel chapter 8, 1 Samuel 9:2).

David even as a young man had the imprints of God in his life and because of his heart the Lord would anoint him as king (1 Samuel 16:13, 1 Samuel 17: 34-36).  In fact the Bible says in Acts 13:22(NKJV) And when He had removed him, He raised up for them David as king, to whom also He gave testimony and said, ‘I have found David  the son of Jesse, a man after My own heart, who will do all My will.’  

What was it about David that set him apart?  … a man after My own heart, who will do all My will.’  Not only did he have a heart that sought the Lord, the Lord could trust him to do the will of the Lord!  David just seemed to be multitalented; he was an incredible musician who led the people musically (1 Chronicles 13:8), a fierce warrior and as King a great leader.  I truly believe it all goes back to what is said about him in Acts 13:22.  If we as a people would apply; Matthew 6:33(NKJV) But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you. 

Oh, by the way FYI - Bamm Bamm is the nice kitty.

IMPRINTS #3

Since the creation of this world, there has been an undeniable imprint upon the people of God.  Regardless of circumstances or the evil which tries to rear its ugly head …

“Be strong and courageous; do not be afraid nor dismayed before the king of Assyria, nor before all the multitude that is with him; for there are more with us than with him. 
With him is an arm of flesh; but with us is the Lord our God, to help us and to fight our battles.” And the people were strengthened by the words of Hezekiah king of Judah.  2 Chronicles 32:7-8(NKJV) (also Read 2 Kings 18:16-2 Kings 19:1-19)

Battles are waged every day.  They are physical, mental or spiritual and mostly all three woven within each other. Regardless of the intensity of these battles the Lord God is with us and the enemy only has an arm of flesh.   In 2 Chronicles chapter 32 and 2 Kings chapters 18-19; Hezekiah makes a decision and that is to trust in the one true God who is mighty to save.  The King of Assyria endeavored to pose a great threat against King Hezekiah and the people of Jerusalem. 

Hezekiah prepared physically for battle but he knew the real strength would come only through the Lord God and he knew the enemy could not stand against the one true God.  Hezekiah literally takes a letter that the King of Assyria wrote against the Lord God and spreads it out before God; a powerful imprint or encounter transpires as he states his case before the Lord (Isaiah 43:25-26).  Unstoppable faith arises and the prophet of the Lord (Isaiah) pays him a visit and confirms; because he prayed and sought God Almighty, He (God) heard and according to 2 Kings 19:35-37 … on a certain night an angel of the Lord went into the camp and killed the Assyria army.  Then the kings own sons killed Sennacherib (the Assyrian King) while he worshipped a foreign god (idol).

I am sure this was one imprint that King Hezekiah never forgot!

The same one true God Almighty is willing and able to go to battle for us…PTL!

IMPRINTS part #2

And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” Genesis 2:18(NKJV)

Wow, the Lord knew Adam would be lonely and He created all these animals for Adam to care for, nurture and keep him company but none would be found comparable to Adam.  So the Lord pays Adam a holy visitation and an imprint is brought into his life which I am sure he never forgot!  You see a true imprint can never be washed away or forgotten.

And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. 
Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.
And Adam said:      “This is now bone of my bones     And flesh of my flesh;     She shall be called Woman,     Because she was taken out of Man.” Genesis 2:21-23(NKJV)

Then God Himself performs the first wedding ceremony!!

V 24-25 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.

From the very beginning of time the Lord instituted a covenant that affects us all in one way or another.  Whether we are the off-spring of this covenant or we are married.  Nothing will ever remove the marriage union, not man, Politian or times.  The Lord set forth this covenant and no amount of man’s doings will ever abolish it.  Oh, yes they will try but I am telling you it will endure.  You see even in Biblical times those people tried to pervert it but Jesus said;

Mark 10:3-9(NKJV)
And He answered and said to them, “What did Moses command you?”
They said, “Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce, and to dismiss her.”
And Jesus answered and said to them, “Because of the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept. 
But from the beginning of the creation, God ‘made them male and female.’  
‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, 
and the two shall become one flesh’; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. 
Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”

Things appear dark out there in regards to marriages; it is time to turn our hearts back and reestablish solid foundations for marriages to be built upon and take part in a Holy union that is a reflection of Jesus Christ and the Bride…that is without spot or wrinkle!

To be cont’d…imprints



IMPRINTS

I would define an imprint as; a deep undeniable encounter, THAT IS FOREVER ECTHED IN YOUR MIND.  Those Kodak moments par say good or bad that take up permanent residence.  Webster partly defines “imprint” as to fix firmly in the mind, a lasting influence or effect[i].

Of course I would absolutely prefer to only have those good moments be highlighted in the store house of my mind.  For now let’s just focus on the good.  What are the imprints in your mind that you can recall every so clearly even from childhood?  What is your favorite imprint?

I remember the first time Dan ever kissed me and the “imprint” that it left.  I remember the place, the time and what I was wearing.  Like yesterday I recall him gently placing his hand on the back of my neck and thinking he is messing up my hair.  As we said our vows on our wedding day I know the exact moment he said “I do” and the thoughts that raced through my mind. 

Not only do we have “physical imprints”; we also have “spiritual imprints”.  The first time I realized the Lord was speaking to me I had just dropped my youngest daughter off at pre-school.  I returned home, sat down in the rocker recliner and proceeded to do my devotions.  At this time in my life I was diligently seeking the Lord so desiring to grow spiritually but frustrated that I just did know what to do next.  I began to pray and said; “Lord I am not leaving this chair until I hear from you”.  Wow - the Lord paid me a visit that day and a journey began as He taught me the Holy Word (Bible).  You see I did not have a mentor to show me or teach me how to live for God so the Lord told me what to look up in Bible and gave me understanding of that scripture.  That “imprint” or encounter forever changed my life as a young wife and mother…but it did not stop there.

Since summer has hit I have neglected my blog (sorry) I will try to do better even if sunshine and waterfront is calling my name!

We will be taking a look at some Biblical examples of “imprints”…so check back, until then try to recall the most impacting “imprint” of your life and how it shaped your life.

A true imprint can never be washed away! 

[i] Webster Dictionary and Thesaurus. Nichols Publishing Group, 1999.,421

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LEFT BEHIND

After the celebration was over, they started home to Nazareth, but Jesus stayed behind in Jerusalem. His parents didn’t miss him at first, because they assumed he was among the other travelers. But when he didn’t show up that evening, they started looking for him among their relatives and friends. When they couldn’t find him, they went back to Jerusalem to search for him there.  Three days later they finally discovered him in the Temple, sitting among the religious teachers, listening to them and asking questions. Luke 2:43-46(NLT)

Have you ever wondered as a parent how is it possible that Joseph and Mary left Jesus behind?  After all they were entrusted to raise and look after the Son of God. They of all the couples living on the earth at that time were chosen by God for a reason.  The Bible calls Joseph a righteous man (Matthew 1:19) and Mary was called highly favored one and blessed among women (Luke 1:28).

There was a time in my life as we raised our daughters where I did wonder about this scripture; thinking how is it possible that they lost track of Jesus and He was left behind.

There was a season when Dan and I drove to church in separate cars because of the different responsibilities of serving at church and the time frames involved.  Our daughters would sometimes ride to church with one of us then ride home with the other parent.  After one of our daughters was left behind twice at church we had to make a rule that was unbreakable.  Whoever you rode to church with – you will ride home with and no exception to the rule.  It was a 15 minute drive home from church and a 15 minute drive back and this was before cell phones so thank God for a very patient and understanding Sunday school teacher.

Before this issue of Jesus being left behind the Bible tells us in Luke 2:39-40(NLT), When Jesus’ parents had fulfilled all the requirements of the law of the Lord, they returned home to Nazareth in Galilee.  There the child grew up healthy and strong. He was filled with wisdom, and God’s favor was on him. 

Notice, Joseph and Mary fulfilled the requirement of the law of the Lord, they had lived their lives holy before the Lord and raised Jesus according to the Word.

We are given a promise in Psalms 112; if we live “rightly” it will carry promise for our children.

I encourage you to read this passage slowly and mediate on the message of what our responsibility is and if we live accordingly, what the outcome will be.

Psalms 112:1-10(NLT)
    Praise the LORD!   How joyful are those who fear the LORD and delight in obeying his commands. Their children will be successful everywhere; an entire generation of godly people will be blessed. They themselves will be wealth, and their good deeds will last forever. Light shines in the darkness for the godly. They are generous, compassionate, and righteous. Good comes to those who lend money generously      and conduct their business fairly. Such people will not be overcome by evil. Those who are righteous will be long remembered. They do not fear bad news; they confidently trust the LORD to care for them. They are confident and fearless and can face their foes triumphantly.  They share freely and give generously to those in need. Their good deeds will be remembered forever. They will have influence and honor. The wicked will see this and be infuriated. They will grind their teeth in anger; they will slink away, their hopes thwarted.

And here is another promise we can count on:

Psalms 92:13-15(NLT)
    For they are transplanted to the LORD’s own house. They flourish in the courts of our God. Even in old age they will still produce fruit; they will remain vital and green.
    They will declare, “The LORD is just!      He is my rock!     There is no evil in him!”

Joseph and Mary are great example of Godly parents for the Bible says:

Luke 2:46-52(NLT)
Three days later they finally discovered him in the Temple, sitting among the religious teachers, listening to them and asking questions. 
All who heard him were amazed at his understanding and his answers. 
His parents didn’t know what to think. “Son,” his mother said to him, “why have you done this to us? Your father and I have been frantic, searching for you everywhere.” 
“But why did you need to search?” he asked. “Didn’t you know that I must be in my Father’s house?” 
But they didn’t understand what he meant. 
Then he returned to Nazareth with them and was obedient to them. And his mother stored all these things in her heart. 
Jesus grew in wisdom and in stature and in favor with God and all the people. 

If by accident one of your children were “left behind”, what would they be found doing?