To really understand the impact a father has on a child you need to look at the role the Lord has called a man to fulfill. The role of the husband/ father was meant to be filled by the man. This role was part of creation and was not based on circumstances or changing culture. Although man sinned and the fall took place Jesus Christ restored all through His death and resurrection making a way for man to fulfill his God given role. The wife cannot fulfill what God has called man to fulfill. Fathers play a pivotal role in the life of a child and there is absolutely no substitute for the impact a father can have in his child.
Without the constant interaction of a father in a child’s life they will not have a base to draw from as they grow, mature and one day marry. They truly will lack the influence and demonstration of what a man of God is or how a man is to treat his future wife, sons and daughters.
The man was called to headship or leadership. He is to be the main provisional for his family making sure the needs of his wife and children are met. He is commanded to love his wife setting an example for his children on how the son is to treat his wife one day and revealing to his daughter how a man is to treat her. The man was called to servant hood just as Christ showed us an example of serving others. The husband/father was created to withstand pressures and physically take on work the wife/the mother is not capable of.
Children who are raised without a father may experience a warped view of Father God. They may have insecurity issues in their life and look for acceptance and love in the wrong places. They may lack skills for problem solving and the drive to press through not only daily issues but crisis events also. A lack of confidence and low self esteem may be present in children raised in fatherless homes causing them to compromise and to reach out for unhealthy relationships in others. Due to the fact that the mother has been attempting to fulfill both roles one as a father and mother a great lack of masculinity will be absent causing the child to form their own thoughts of what a man is or is not. Because the mother has to exert so much time and energy endeavoring to meet all the needs of the child, little time is left to spend one on one. Mothers typically do not discipline appropriately and there is no one to help reinforce what she may be trying to instill. In the absence of a father/male influence, undue stress is placed on the mother and the child will reap the dynamics of this lack.
There is not a replacement for Father and thank God in His infinite wisdom He knew just exactly what was needed for a family to flourish. We also thank God that He makes provisions for the fatherless.
Psalms 92:13-15 (NKJV) Those who are planted in the house of the Lord - Shall flourish in the courts of our God. They shall still bear fruit in old age; They shall be fresh and flourishing, To declare that the Lord is upright; He is my rock, and there is no unrighteousness in Him.
HAPPY FATHER'S DAY
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